At last a children's book with a transyouth character


It’s called 10,000 Dresses and is written and illustrated by Marcus Ewert and Rex Ray respectively. I have not read it yet but I know that it has been getting rave reviews. Below is how one site,, describes it:

Every night, Bailey dreams about magical dresses: dresses made of crystals and rainbows, dresses made of flowers, dresses made of windows. . . . Unfortunately, when Bailey's awake, no one wants to hear about these beautiful dreams. Quite the contrary. "You're a BOY!" Mother and Father tell Bailey. "You shouldn’t be thinking about dresses at all." Then Bailey meets Laurel, an older girl who is touched and inspired by Bailey’s imagination and courage. In friendship, the two of them begin making dresses together. And Bailey’s dreams come true!

This gorgeous picture book—a modern fairy tale about becoming the person you feel you are inside—will delight people of all ages.

I already checked local bookstores here and predictably, they don’t have it yet. I hope that 10,000 Dresses gets distributed in the Philippines though for I cannot stress enough the importance of having a book such as this around. It not only affirms the existence of gender diversity in childhood but also gives it a face and voice. Bailey is the youth embodiment of the “gender that dare not speak its name.”

Growing up, people around me always pointed out how different I was from the other boys. I was soft, feminine and preferred “girly” things. They would whisper about me or the way I acted and every time they had a chance would tell me, one way or another, that I must change, must try to conform or there would be consequences. Sometimes I would just shrug these comments off. Sometimes they would really get to me. I lost count of the many times I would hide in my room and cry over the things that people said. One way I learned to cope was by burying myself in books.

We’ve always been a reading family thanks to my college-educated parents. I read my first novel when I was 12 which was itself a culmination of reading various prose and poetry since I learned how to read when I was 6. I’ve never stopped reading from then on. Reading to me started out as a form of therapy, an escape to the world of words. When the real world got too much to bear, I would pick up a book, cuddle up in bed, stay in and read till it was time to get back again to the business of attending school, doing house chores, participating in family activities, etc. But what began as a coping mechanism ended up becoming a pleasurable hobby.

I read anything and everything I could get my hands on. Always, however, I would get a feeling that something was missing. In college, a literature teacher who was openly gay hit the nail on the head when he said, “Much of the literature we grew up reading was not meant for an LGBT audience” or something to that effect. And it really made sense!

I never saw someone like me in any of the things I read. In fact the first time I encountered a trans character in a novel was when I read Armistead Maupin's Tales of the City series. I was already 19 then I think. When I did, I didn’t think that it was too late though. On the contrary, I thought exactly the same thing when I heard about 10,000 Dresses: “At last!”

It is my wish that this little gem of a book helps parents of gender non-conforming children look at their own kids with kinder, more compassionate eyes. More importantly, I hope that this book will end up in the hands of those same gender non-conforming kids so that they will see themselves, feel right and have hope.


Ming Meows said...

i remember when i was young, i used to design the dress prints of paper dolls

Mac Callister said...

is this the one they made a movie about?

maybe i'll find a copy after im done with eclipse hehe

PinayTG said...

@Ming Meows: I used to do that as well! I made paper dolls and put them on stands. The dolls' dresses had flaps on the shoulders that you folded to attach to the dolls. :)

@Mac Callister: I don't think so Mac. This book just came out in January. There's a very nice Belgian film though called "Ma Vie En Rose" or My Life in Pink which tackles the same issue. Watch it when you can. It was very well made and made me cry! :)

Marcus said...

Hi folks- this is Marcus Ewert- who wrote 10,000 Dresses. (Yes- I DO Google my book obsessively!)

PinayTG- thank you so much for your very kind mention of my book- and I hope you like it when you see it.

Your story about growing up was very moving. It just kills me how cruel people can be to kids, kids who are just being themselves. Anyway- *clearly* you have come through the experience with your wit, and beauty, and strength of character intact- to say the least - and God bless you!

Take care, my dear!
Your new friend in San Francisco-

PopMax said...

is the book available here? or just online? sad naman if online lang :(

PopMax said...

if they make it available here, do you think the local bookstores will have the balls to put it in the children's section? like everything lgbt, it might end up in the psychology section. at least, the big natio in cubao had a gay/lesbian section the last time i checked.

PinayTG said...

OMG boys and girl! Rockstar in the houuuuuuuuuuuuse! Marcus Ewert himself! :)

Thanks Marcus for your equally kind words and for stopping by our lil online community. You are always welcome here.

And yes I know I will love and treasure your book. Thank you for writing it from the bottom of my heart. :)

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