Skip to main content

Homophobic Homosexuals

After doing the Gay for Pay episode, Tyra Banks brings in the controversy once more and featured homophobic homosexuals on the show.

Yes, she invited openly gay individuals to talk about their likewise very open disgust on homosexuality.

Confusing, yes I know, but very real. Not only on Tyra but even here in the Philippines. One needs only to follow some of the local gay blogs to see the same issues and themes in Tyra recur

The Episode

Tyra's guests are:

1. Shane -19 and gives himself until the age of 30 to turn straight

2. Tia and Skylar - Tia is Shane's ex-GF and now best friend and roomate. Skylar is shane's ex-BF who is now Tia's object of affection (they lead REALLY complicated lives)

3. Greg - a small town kid who feared gays

4. Elian and Katy - married BUT Elian remains gay and Katie accepts this and EVEN allows for threesomes

5. Marc - is one HOTT stud. I feel like he's got no major issues on homosexuality just his dad who forces him to go to ex-gay ministries, etc.

The producers of Tyra sure knows how to raise eyebrows! Of the 5 I feel that Elian and Shane's cases are most talk-worthy: one wants to be straight, the other is trying to live the hetero life.

Lemme start with Shane (watch the video below):

Bear with me as I try to dissect this guy's issues against homosexuality per statement:

Shane says: "I'm hoping this is just a phase because I never wanted to be gay"
=> Well, I feel like we really don't have a choice about that. I believe that we are BORN that way.

"I wanna have a real family"
=> I believe that a family is not just the simple combination of a man, a woman, and their kid. A family is what you make of the people around you. A gay man can still have a REAL family with another guy, it's never about the legality of their union or a formal declaration or society's acceptance of that union. It is about their love for each other. As for kids, they can always get a surrogate or adopt (I'm a living testimony)!

"Men are supposed to be alpha and I don't think gay guys are.... if they wanna be girls, they should get a sex change or something... if you're gonna be a guy then be a guy"
=> Now this is such a Draconian perspective. The idea that males are alpha have long been debunked. We now have House Husbands, for goodness sake! This line of thinking would eventually lead to saying that woen should stay at home and darn socks (and that would be like going back in time for 4 decades or so). NOT TO MENTION there are gays who are straight acting (or alpha). AND not all gays want to be girls... most gays are perfectly happy with their penises.

"I'm not really a fan of the male organ"
=> YEAH RIGHT!!! ano ginagawa niya sa kama, pitik bulag? PUH-LEASE!

"I'm not a fan of female anatomy either... it just really creeps me out"
=> That's because he's gay, duh. With that thinking, god luck talaga if he meets his deadline

Before I take my arguments on SHane's case to the next level, let me show you Elian's case. His case embodies all the reasons why a gay guy can NEVER live ahetero life and be HAPPY:

As Tia says in the first segment:
"You can't help who you're attracted to.. You can't turn it off"
The bottomline is that WE CANNOT FIGHT NATURE. Need I say more? There is no fighting the urge... there is no conversion therapy... simply put, there is NO CURE because we are NOT SICK.

So what's this all about? Why would a gay person want to be straight?

At this point, I wanna review some statements made by Shane:

"I will never be satisfied with a man... it's pure sexual and I feel I am supposed to be emotionally satisfied by a woman"

"...The emotional factor will be more to me, I'll probably still have my sexual urges but... I'm gonna force myself to be with a woman... as long as I'm in love with her it won't matter to me"

It's important to note that Shane grew up in a family of rigid Christians (where Pokemon and Dragonball are considered the devil!!!). Notice too hoe he uses word "SUPPOSED TO BE". Clearly he is very much influenced by heteronormative ideas.

This is an example of the sad products of a very conservative and rigid society: people who are so UNHAPPY... people who are in conflict with their own nature and the rules of society...

Tia, once again, bless the girl, says it perfectly:

"I think a lot of gays... want to be part of society but it has rules and it's very conflicting for them"
Here in the Philippines, I suppose one of the manifestations of this self-hatred is the emergence of gay subcultures, particularly those who live the gay life but refuse to identify themselves as such hence creating new labels such as "straight-tripper" "Bi-curious" etc etc (read about more about it here)

The cure? Self-acceptance... life is too beautiful to spend it hating one. We all know this, but let's just quote Tyra for reference:

"Gay people are normal, they do the same things straight people do"

Watch the rest of the episode below:

Watch out for Marc @ Segmnet 5 (sooo drool-worthy!)


Ming Meows said…
mga epokritang baklush!
Ming Meows said…
i just feel sorry for them growing up in an unloving environment.
Onotheo said…
Interesting. I can sympathize with some of them. I used to want to be straight too but in the process I only made myself more masculine, nothing else.
Elyong said…
These are all valid expressions of people in an unstable environment... but sadly, those who are watching over us enjoyed the turmoil each of us went through...

I haven't seen the show.... but shows like this would never end in resolutions but more confusion.
Oliver said…
@ Elyong:

I quite agree... It would be amazing if the complex issues of society can be easily resolved in a tacky daytime TV show.

looking at it from a business perspective, I suppose the producers were angling for the same ratings brought about by the the Gay for Pay episode by tapping the powerful American Pink market.

In any case, these shows have a way of bringing issues into the surface of society's consciousness and serving as a platform of discussion by which, hopefully, we are granted some clarity
crankygoggled said…
very nice arguments against ex gays...

i like the part that homosexuality is not something that should be cured like it was a disease or something... also would like to comment on the part about the gay who wanted to have a family.. i too wanted to be that way.. kahit hanggang ngaun... para bang gusto ko maranasan magkaron ng pamilya.. isang asawa at isang biological na anak... kaya minsan di ko ma let go ang idea of having a heterosexual life...

pero sabi nga ng argument against dito... malamang nsa rigid christian environment ako... or very conservative family... yeah somehow true din naman.. mahirap din naman kasi especially pag ang environment mo sa paligid mo ay all heterosexuals... you somehow compare yourself to them.... pero i get the point of the argument though...

nice blog.. really!
One positive step we can take is to know ourselves better, particularly this condition called homosexuality.

Let us just respect the opinions of Tyra's guests. If there are people who are bent on living it up as a gay person, likewise there are people who wants otherwise. This site is full of info about homosexuality:

It is important to note that some of their reasons why they want to be "straight" is valid like having a family of their own, etc.
Oliver said…
@ crankygoggled

naiintindihan ko ang nararamdaman mo dahil ganyan din ako. pero naisip ko, hindi nman fair yun sa girl kung aanakan ko lang siya at manlalalaki ako.

SO I decided to adopt. I now have a 3-year old son and I'm living happily with my partner :)

Popular posts from this blog

Mga parausang lumang sinehan

NAG DESISYON na ang Korte Suprema na labag sa Konstitusyon ang ordinansa na nagbabawal ng short time sa mga motel sa siyudad ng Maynila.

Wala na ring balak pa umanong maghain ng apela si mayor Alfredo Lim sa naturang desisyon.

Nagbabala naman si Lim na handa niyang ipasara ang anumang motel sa lungsod ng Maynila sakaling may makita sila na pinapayagan na magpapasok ng mga estudyante para magshort time.
Pero, teka, ito talaga ang pakay ko, ang mga lumang sinehan sa Metro Manila.

Taong 2005, balak ko na itong iparating sa dati kong boss na Kongresista, ang patuloy na pamamayagpag ng mga lumang sinehan sa Maynila. Subalit, may tila tinik sa aking lalamunan na nakabara. Tila, wala akong boses sa tuwing ako ay maghahanda sa aking mga sasabihin. Tila, nakagapos ang aking mga kamay para isulat ang mga hakbang na dapat kong irekomenda para masulosyunan na ito.

Alam ko, ikaw ay pamilyar ukol sa mga lumang sinehan sa buong Kamaynilaan.

Sa unang pasok ko sa ganitong sinehan, ako ay tuwang tuwa. Napan…


NGAYON ANG IKA 111st NA ANIBERSARYO NG ARAW NG KALAYAAN NG PILIPINAS. Ngunit, sa paglipas ng isang daan at labing isang taon, tunay nga ba tayong malaya na?

May mga pagkakataong gusto kong isipin na hindi na tayo nakagapos sa mga bansang banyaga dahil nagkaroon na tayo ng kalayaan sa pamamalakad ng gobyerno. Ngunit, ano ang kalagayan ng mga Pilipino ngayon? Mayroon na nga ba siyang dangal na matatawag? Taas noo na nga ba ang bawat Pilipino kahit kanino?

Sa mga nakalipas na araw, samu’t saring problema ang dinaranas ng ating bansa. Mga problemang lalong nagpapalugmok ng bawat mamamayan. Mga problemang animo’y walang katapusan. Paano babangon ang isang Juan dela Cruz kung mismong mga namumuno sa ating bayan ang nagbabangayan? Paano tayo makakalaya kong mismong mga halal ng bayan ang siyang nanguna upang itali ang bawat mahihirap na pinoy sa kanilang pamamahala?Paano na ang walang tigil na pagbulusok ng presyo ng mga pangunahing bilihin? Ang walang humpay na pagtaas ng gasolina. Paano pa m…

Ang Kondisyon ng HIV at AIDS sa Pilipinas

Akda ni Marlon Lacsamana

Taong 1984 ng sa kauna-unahang pagkakataon ay mayroong naitala na Pilipino sa Philippine’s National AIDS Registry ng Department of Health (DOH). Mula noon, umaabot na sa 3,589 ang nakalista na may HIV hanggang Disyembre ng 2008. Sa bawat taon, patuloy ang pagtaas ng bilang ng mga taong nabubuhay na may HIV sa bansa. Kapansin-pansin din ang bilis ng pagdami ng mga kasong naitala sa kasalukuyang dekada kumpara noong dekada ’80s at ’90s. Mula 1984 hangang 1989 ay may kulang-kulang sa 50. Sa taong 1990 hangang 1992 mahigit 50 pero kulang sa 100 ang mga kaso sa loob ng taon. Sa taong 1993 hangang 2004, humihigit na sa 100 ang kaso. Sa taong 2006 mahigit 300 ang naitala. At sa 2008 mahigit 500. (NEC, 2008).

Tanggap na ngayon sa bansa na ang HIV ay hidden and growing. Ito ay isang pagtingin na mula na rin sa UNAIDS. Ang pagsusuring ito ay bag na sa dating paniniwala na mula lamang sa mga mosk at risk population (MARPs) – persons in prostitutions and their clients, male…