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The Ex-Gays



Reparative therapy, a so-called "healing process" for gays to become straight, has always been a controversial subject matter in the gay community. Although mainstream psychiatrists have yet to determine what causes one's sexual orientation to deviate, proponents of reparative therapy believe that homosexuality is caused by a traumatic experience as a child.

However, we can say that this therapy is not (as they may say) "a blanket solution to cure homosexuality." For one, as many of us believe, homosexuality is not a disease nor it is a mental condition. However, there could be some cases where men took the gay route to "escape" from their trauma, which mentoring treatments like reparative treatment may help.

Unlike in the United States where many reparative treatments focus on the psychological aspect, the Philippines has its own way of reparative treatment although it is not promoted as such. They call it "Christianity."

An Evangelical Christian group based in the Philippines promotes a series of guide videos, which includes "Born Bading" that aims to "live free from homosexuality." The video is hosted by Anthony Roquel, a former actor who was prominent for his gay role as Tonette Macho in the sitcom Iskul Bukol.

I am appalled by the copy of their video as if homosexuality is more repressing than the dingy closet that hides many secretly-gay actors in the Philippines. I, for one, chose to be free and I never could have felt better.

But what is your view on reparative therapy, or the belief that homosexuality is some form of self-oppression? We want to hear from you!

Comments

Yffar (^^,) said…
wahhhhh..

as if they can cure homosexuality which is an inert trait...

siguro they can psychological problems but being gay is different.

it's normal and there's nothing abnormal about us that is needed to be cured...

what they have to do is accept the fact that we exist...

ano tayo sulat ng lapis na pdeng burahin!?! Mantsa sa damit na pdeng labhan!?!

why dont these people focus on a more severe aspect of life like the ecological problems causing global warming, or try solving the issues of poverty and unemployment...

nakanang.

sorry

aga aga nag-init ang dugo ko sa kanila....
LhanDz said…
well siguro kaya nila naisip na gawin to is because until now, ang tingin nila sa paiping homosexual ay isang psychological problem which is somehow true but really different.

Dapat siguro nila malaman na though powerful talaga ang utak ntn pero may mga bagay na hindi lang utak ang nagdedecide.

It's our will kung bakit ntin pinili na maging ganito.

At isa pa, we're not just a defect or a disease perhaps na dapat itama.

We have our own rights and beliefs na dapat irespeto.
StarFish said…
that's dumb! there's no such thing, you didn't choose to be gay, you're just gay! lol...

and i do agree with "Yffar"... really! why not focus on things that really matter? ugh! this just ticked me off... ha!

lol...

~ViN
Jun said…
The term "reparative therapy" was introduced in 1980's and is sometimes used loosely as a synonym for conversion therapy in general. Reprative Therapy, however, poses as offering a possibility of change for homosexuals who are dissatisfied with their sexual orientation. This technique does not prupose to eliminating homosexual desires but rather minimize them. Although most professionals of the field had discredited this therapeutic model, there are some who still make an effort in the endeavor.

Yet, whether attempting to minimize homosexual tendencies or eliminating it entirely, there is still no proof that homosexuality is a psychopathology, a mental disorder, or anything caused by biological or genetic conditions and, thus, there is no need to "cure" it.

Although I agree with conversions therapists when they argue that people should be able to determine their own therapeutic goals, I should emphasize that It should be the person's own will to undergo a change in sexual orientation and not because their parents or society told them so.

For those "ex-gays" who chose to become straight, apparently, they weren't happy being gay.
Ming Meows said…
these people lack empathy...a cousin of respect
leo said…
it is not a cure, more like brain washing. they are taught to supress their impulses but it doesn't change their inherent make-up. it is like teaching a left-handed person to use his right hand to write. with constant use, he will learn how to use it for that purpose but it doesn't change the fact that he will always be a left-handed person. in fact, he will revert to using the left hand if he doesn't force himself to use his right hand.
sinverguenza!!! These 'christian-change' ministries are popping-up anywhere these days... Trust the human race not to see that life is difficult enough as it is that they have to force religion into it.

Don't get me wrong, but I've always been a good catholic and I have never experienced any ill-will about being gay from my uncle who is a priest.
crankygoggled said…
yeah.. they're just doing supression thingy... they're like forcing you to supress your homosexuality...

i really wonder what's up with ex-gays though... the term itself is really somehow confusing...

and also what's up with ex-gays.. fine if they want to label themselves as ex-gays... and let gays live their own lives din... and give them the freedom to be gay..

parang as if sakit ang pagiging homosexual!

sexuality is diverse! if you chose to be ex gays then fine! it's your life! but to think that if you chose to be like that and it works for you that doesn't mean that you have to implement what it worked for you! duh!!!

your just like pakitang gilas lang with the "work" or "miracle" that has happened to you... that you've changed because "you tried to"... duhhh...
I think we should understand first what homosexuality is. Many of us pretend we know everything about this topic simply because we are one!

I recommend this site for this purpose:

www.couragephilippines.blogspot.com

Thanks.
Momel said…
Once a fag, always a fag. I understand quitting cigarettes, but cock? Really, there's no turning back once you've gone anal.

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