Dear Becky: I'm Gay, but Girls Like Me

Dear Becky,

I know this is quite a weird problem. You see, I'm gay and I haven't been successful in having a boyfriend. However, I have been encountering girls and they have expressed they like me but I only look at them as just friends.

It started back in high school. I had a female friend whom I have been buddies with since Grade 3, and even back then she knew I was gay. But during our high school years she tried to flirt with me. I didn't get aroused or anything, I thought it was her "adolescence" acting up. Then during our college years, when we haven't been seeing each other personally, she told me over the phone that she liked me. I was shocked, but I told her that she is like a sister to me. I thought I broke her heart, but what can I do? I cannot pretend to be straight.


During college, I also met some female friends who have expressed their liking for me. First was a Filipino-Chinese who even sent a note to me with lyrics of "When I Fall in Love" and even pitched an idea of having me meet her family. The second was a classmate in my junior year. She sent love-related text messages and even asked me to kiss her, but I only gave her a peck on the cheek.

Now that I'm years beyond my college years, one of my female officemates was so forward about wanting me to be her boyfriend all while knowing that I go for my own kind. Ironically, I am still unsuccessful in having guys, straight-acting gays, or male bisexuals into a romantic relationship.

I was wondering Becky, is this a sign from God that I should be straight? Do you think there is something wrong with me which is why I am bad in having gay relationships? I hope your readers could enlighten me.

Thanks and more power,
Clyde

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